I often find that when I write blogs feels like I talk to myself. Today it feels like a lonely day. Despite having friends to talk with it's not feeling like a connection. Often on social media we just post pics and keep on refreshing for the number of likes increased. Nowadays, social media has become more of a posting platform, which is good, but we have lost the touch to talk. Like people are just posting memes and pics, no real chat is happening.
In this covid situation already mind gets fucked up at some point sitting at home not seeing people not having a regular college life. Lots of overthinking happen.
I have also seen some random strangers talk and turn out to be great friends on their way. That's the best part of Social media.
Loneliness eats one from inside even if he/she is surrounded with 10 people around then too that person may feel alone and empty from inside.
It's so much important to be best friends with our own selves. Because people are gonna come and go all we are left with is just we ourselves. Some friendships or relationships come for a particular interval of time and then expire eventually. Connections aren't guaranteed the only bond that's guaranteed is what you have with yourselves.
Once we have gone through that isolation it's easy to suffer from it the next time. But the only formula is to enjoy our own company. We often try to change people, we should do that changes within ourselves.
In all this rush we try to comfort ourselves by talking to strangers sometimes it turns out good sometimes it doesn't. But while all this is happening with you, you are growing. Feeling lonely or left out and recovering from it is growing within you. Being uncomfortable, feeling insecure is a growth.
Let me tell you a story of a lobster. A lobster is an animal that lives in a rigid shell. And the size of the shell doesn't change as it grows. As it grows it feels more and more pressured and uncomfortable. It goes under a rock formation to protect itself from fish, casts off the shell, and produces a new one. Well, eventually, that shell becomes very uncomfortable as it grows. Back under the rocks. The lobster repeats this numerous times.
The stimulus for the lobster to be able to grow is that it feels uncomfortable. If lobster had a doctor, they would never grow because as soon as the lobster feels uncomfortable, the doctor would have healed it and lobster would have been all fine.
“I think that we have to realize that times of stress are also times that are signals for growth, and if we use adversity properly, we can grow through adversity.” — Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski.
Likely when we grow, we are gonna be uncomfortable and alone in many situations but once we tackle that phase we can easily face the next storm coming towards us because now we know how to live with ourselves. And we have accepted the fact that no one is gonna stay forever. It's just you who is with you. So start loving yourself first, if you don't find yourself lovable or if you don't enjoy your own company how do you expect someone else to do that for you.
Lastly, “this too shall pass” take every situation as it arrives. And try to laugh at your worse. It's hard to do so but it's the growth on which you are working.
Things get easy as time passes. And staying busy is one of the best solutions. Sometimes, being busy also feels very hard because the mind is disturbed and not working properly. But doing something that you love, talking to old friends, pushing ourselves every time, and taking breaks might help.
All this just requires a bit of work but all this will be worth it.